DR KALANIT BEN-ARI

The Places I Actually Send People To I've lived in London for over two decades. And yet, almost every week, someone visiting asks me the same question: "Where should we go?"

You know those voices. What if I fail? What will others think? I'll do it later. Most of us spend years trying to argue with them. Reason with them. Silence them. And yet — they keep coming back. What if that's because we've been approaching them all wrong? Here's what I've learned from decades of working with people in therapy: those voices aren't your enemies. They're protectors. They developed at some point in your life to keep you safe. And even when they've long

A Line That Changes Everything When it comes to love, few topics create more confusion than this one: Where does privacy end and secrecy begin? Couples often struggle here. One partner says, “I’m entitled to my privacy.” The other feels, “Why does that feel like you’re hiding something?” The difference may seem subtle — but emotionally, it’s enormous. Let’s untangle it. 💫 Privacy: The Quiet Guardian of Trust Privacy is not the enemy of intimacy. In fact, it protects it. Priv

5 Roles That Slowly Drain Your Connection We aren’t "difficult," we’re just stuck. Ever feel like you and your partner are reciting lines from a script you never signed up for? In my experience, when a relationship feels stuck, it’s rarely because one person is "bad" and the other is "good." It’s usually because we’ve fallen into Polarisation Roles. These roles are like invisible magnets. The more I over-function, the more you under-function. The louder I get to be heard, the

If the holidays leave you exhausted, you’re not alone. This article offers real tools to help couples stay close, manage stress, and communicate better. Learn to say no kindly, create shared rituals, and make this season “enough.” Keep your relationship strong — even in the busiest time of year.

What it actually means to engage in therapy, to do the work, and to benefit from it?Because—spoiler alert—just showing up to therapy doesn’t

You know the feeling: the room is quiet, the lights are off, and yet… sleep refuses to come.

Family Lost in a Swedish Forest at Midnight: A Lesson in Paths and Patience

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where the same issues seem to resurface time and time again, no matter how much you try to fi

Apologies. They can feel daunting, can’t they? We all stumble and make mistakes, but how we navigate the aftermath is what truly defines our

Our family holiday in Japan was an unforgettable adventure filled with unique experiences and breathtaking sights. Here are some of our top

Planning a trip to Japan can be exhilarating yet daunting, given its rich culture and unique customs. To help you make the most out of...

A personal journey undertaken during a family ski holiday in Italy, where a digital detox strategy was employed to rejuvenate the essence of

When faced with challenges in our personal relationships, many of us seek professional help. In the UK, one can turn to either a qualified relationship therapist or a relationship coach. Although their titles may sound similar, their roles, methodologies, professional standards, and foundational principles are distinct. Understanding these differences is crucial in making an informed decision about which service best aligns with your needs. Relationship Therapists: A Closer L

Balancing Your Energy Centres: Chakra Colour Meditation. Mindfulness practice.

Explore 7 inspiring tips on conquering fears, reframing perceptions, and nurturing courage in our blog, Fear Is Not An Option!

the concept of Japanese Ma and spiritual living by Kalanit Ben-Ari. Fining calmness and direction to out life and relationships. Tips to prn

Have you ever found yourself lost in thought, pondering the complexities of life? It's great to take time to reflect and deeply think about our experiences and the world around us. However, it's important to differentiate between deep thinking and overthinking.

I’ve never been the one with hundreds of friends. I appreciate having a few significant and meaningful relationships over large social circles. By modern standards, I’d most likely be put in the introvert box. I take pleasure in solitary activities, enjoy time spent alone, appreciate and feel recharged in quiet. I’m big on observation and self-reflection. This is somewhat in contrast to the modern definition of extroverts, who are talkative, seek and feel energised by the pre

Pandemic restrictions are (mostly) lifted, so why are couples collapsing now? And what can be done to help those struggling