DR KALANIT BEN-ARI

A Line That Changes Everything When it comes to love, few topics create more confusion than this one: Where does privacy end and secrecy begin? Couples often struggle here. One partner says, “I’m entitled to my privacy.” The other feels, “Why does that feel like you’re hiding something?” The difference may seem subtle — but emotionally, it’s enormous. Let’s untangle it. 💫 Privacy: The Quiet Guardian of Trust Privacy is not the enemy of intimacy. In fact, it protects it. Priv

5 Roles That Slowly Drain Your Connection We aren’t "difficult," we’re just stuck. Ever feel like you and your partner are reciting lines from a script you never signed up for? In my experience, when a relationship feels stuck, it’s rarely because one person is "bad" and the other is "good." It’s usually because we’ve fallen into Polarisation Roles. These roles are like invisible magnets. The more I over-function, the more you under-function. The louder I get to be heard, the

If the holidays leave you exhausted, you’re not alone. This article offers real tools to help couples stay close, manage stress, and communicate better. Learn to say no kindly, create shared rituals, and make this season “enough.” Keep your relationship strong — even in the busiest time of year.

What it actually means to engage in therapy, to do the work, and to benefit from it?Because—spoiler alert—just showing up to therapy doesn’t

Family Lost in a Swedish Forest at Midnight: A Lesson in Paths and Patience

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where the same issues seem to resurface time and time again, no matter how much you try to fi

Apologies. They can feel daunting, can’t they? We all stumble and make mistakes, but how we navigate the aftermath is what truly defines our

Our family holiday in Japan was an unforgettable adventure filled with unique experiences and breathtaking sights. Here are some of our top

A personal journey undertaken during a family ski holiday in Italy, where a digital detox strategy was employed to rejuvenate the essence of

When faced with challenges in our personal relationships, many of us seek professional help. In the UK, one can turn to either a qualified relationship therapist or a relationship coach. Although their titles may sound similar, their roles, methodologies, professional standards, and foundational principles are distinct. Understanding these differences is crucial in making an informed decision about which service best aligns with your needs. Relationship Therapists: A Closer L

Explore 7 inspiring tips on conquering fears, reframing perceptions, and nurturing courage in our blog, Fear Is Not An Option!

the concept of Japanese Ma and spiritual living by Kalanit Ben-Ari. Fining calmness and direction to out life and relationships. Tips to prn

Pandemic restrictions are (mostly) lifted, so why are couples collapsing now? And what can be done to help those struggling

Eight Lessons for Life From Ski School

Do you want to understand yours and your partner's relationship boundaries better? Complete this simple exercise together as a couple and improve your communication, uncover your unspoken expectations, and connect in a meaningful way.

Over time, patience has earned itself a bad reputation. In this fast-paced world, we’ve become used to getting what we want, when we want...

Picture the scene: You’re alone with, say, a colleague. An ex perhaps. Maybe a friend? Things are heating up. In the back of your mind,...

5 questions to change your mindset Once we get past the ‘honeymoon’ stage of our relationship, it’s not uncommon for us to wonder why we...

By Kalanit Ben-Ari, Ph.D. Both I and my husband were moved, or disturbed if you ask him, by the agonising dissection of a divorce in...

I was recently approached for an interview by Bella Magazine (published January 2020) regarding a piece they were writing about couples...